Mastering German can get you the girl/guy of your dreams.
Imagine walking into a bar in Germany, seeing a beautiful woman or a handsome man and being able to instantly flirt with them in their native tongue? Impressive right?! Being able to speak a new language is a skill on its own but the ability to communicate with the same/opposite sex on a romantic level can really help you to meet the life partner.
Whether it’s a holiday fling or a long-lasting relationship, being able to jump in with your German is great practice even if you’re rejected. Beginner or an advanced speaker, we’ve collected up some phrases and pieces of vocabulary you can use when in one of these situations.
The love facts of Germany
If you’re looking to impress in Germany, you might like to know a few love facts to help you along the way.
Dating in Germany is very similar to every other country, there are not too many major differences between England or the US and Germany when it comes to the flirting part of things. If you’ve managed to score a date, there are a few things you might need to know. Here are a few items to be aware of when you are on your next date in Germany:
- Paying the bills – when it comes to paying the bills, Germans can be ruthless. In many societies like England and the US, picking up the bill might be something that comes naturally for the male/more dominant character in the relationship/conversation. If you’re in Germany, that rule goes out of the window. If she gets a moment, she’ll pay the bill, so avoid any trips to the loo if you’re looking to be the cavalier and pay the bill. Saying that, if you want to save some bucks, it’s not a bad idea… (just joking).
- White lies – Germans are naturally very upfront. They are very honest with their opinion and take most things literally, so girls, if you ask a German guy on a date, “how does my dress look tonight,” he might take this very literally and comment on the dress. This isn’t something to get offended by; they just don’t do forced ego-boosting. They’ll dish out the compliments, so leave it them, to avoid any embarrassments.
- Opinion sharing – At the dinner table don’t be afraid to get the conversation flowing with an opinion piece. From politics to work, German people love to get into well-informed, structured conversations. Don’t be scared to share your opinion, just make sure to come in with facts, before it turns into a savage debate and the date ends early.
- Chit chatting – Germans like to skip this. Any chitter chatter you have might be worth saving this for another time. Whether it’s over chatting about the restaurant decor or the way that the spoons like here, avoid it. Germans are very direct, so they like to skip past any chitter chatter to get to the real conversation.
Therese are a few tips and tricks for when you are looking to improve the quality of your date and even skip past some of the most awkward elements and move onto the more romantic occasions of the evening.
Phrases you need to know
Usually, flirting is rather a fun game than a serious conversation between women and men. You may not want to rap silly phrases when trying to find the love of your life.Therefore, Germans tend to be very careful with their flirts because they often seek a serious connection and make flirting a subtle dance between the genders. As a result, flirting in Germany can be less fun than in other countries but on the other hand more meaningful and romantic. German romance might be a little less interesting, however flirting is still an important part of the culture for the German people.
Here are German phrases that help you getting close to your opposite or even finding a partner:
Ich möchte nicht stören, aber ich musste dich einfach ansprechen!
I don’t want to disturb you but I just had to talk to you!
If you see someone special that you want to talk to, this phrase is a good tool to break the ice and start a conversation. You’re being very polite and formal but also get across your interest. The fact that you couldn’t resist coming over can be very charming, too. A flirting must!
Du siehst einfach umwerfend aus!
You simply look stunning!
Imagine you have already broken the ice and find yourself in an awkward silence. This compliment will help you to continue the conversation and show how much you fancy your chosen one. However, keep in mind that it’s more suitable for special occasions rather than meeting someone in a German pub.
Mir kommt es so vor als würden wir uns schon seit Ewigkeiten kennen!
I feel like we’ve known each other for an eternity!
This phrase is useful when you notice that you have similar interests and share certain characteristics. The timing plays an important role for this one because it creates a strong close-to-each-other feel. If there’s no obvious connection between you two, then it might get a little awkward instead of romantic.
Du hast eine unglaubliche Ausstrahlung!
You have incredible charisma!
It’s completely fine to express your feelings while flirting. Sometimes, the urge to do so directly takes over to a point where you can’t control it, even if you’re a shy person. However, this compliment requires good judgment about your desired one. If you’re not on the same page, it can be a little over the top. Go for it if you get similar signals, it’s very charming. You’ll be a flirting professional in Germany in no time!
Ich kann mit dir so viel lachen!
I can laugh with you so much!
In Germany, the ability to make someone laugh is considered as one of the most important characteristics a man needs to have. There’s nothing more romantic than being able to laugh together just by talking to each other. Emphasizing that in your flirt can melt your opposite’s, heart. Of course, you want to wait with this compliment until you’ve been already laughing a lot.
Du hast wunderschöne Augen!
You have wonderful eyes!
This compliment is one of the classics. In Germany, it’s lovely to say and much appreciated. It’s an ice breaker as well as a good night kiss. Just make sure that you mean it, because a woman may notice whether you do. You may want to add why you like her eyes and be sincere about it. Time will then stand still for a moment when deeply looking into each other’s eyes.
Ich genieße jede Sekunde mit dir!
I enjoy every second with you!
Everybody has at least once experienced awkward silence during a flirt. It makes sense to save this compliment for these moments because it indicates that you still enjoy talking to each other. Imagine that your crush is afraid that she bores you and feels uncomfortable after running out of topics that you can talk about. The phrase ‘Ich genieße jede Sekunde mit dir’ is both, very charming and efficient to continue the flirt.
Wollen wir uns zusammen einen Film ansehen?
Shall we watch a movie together?
Asking someone out is the hardest part of flirting. There’s not much you can do except hoping that the answer will be yes. There is at least something that may increase your chances. You can suggest watching a romantic movie that you talked about earlier. Watching a movie is considered romantic in Germany, especially a movie that suits both genders.
Möchtest du etwas trinken gehen?
Do you want to get something to drink?
Having a drink may seem less romantic than watching a movie, but Germans are just fine with dating in a lovely café and having a bite to eat. In summer, it often is the better choice because of all the beautiful ‘Biergärten’ (beergardens) where you can sit outside and enjoy the ambience. Of course, you can have a drink anywhere you like, there’s many places to have a drink.
Darf ich dich zum Essen ausführen?
May I take you out for dinner?
Here’s another classic for your flirting repertoire. Going to a fancy restaurant is very romantic and the most common way to really get to know each other. Asking someone out for dinner also requires commitment and shows that you have already made plans in your head. However, if you want to keep it light and relaxed, you may want to have a drink or watch movie.
Where do German people hang out?
So, where do German people hang out?
German people aren’t too different than the majority of the western world. German people like bars, cafes, restaurants, cinema as spots to hang out, but they really enjoy summers. Summer for German people can include lots of outdoor activities like heading to the coastal regions and the North Sea to spend their time. Once there, they love spending their time in open-air swimming pools, on toboggan runs and rope climbing. A very adventurous bunch!
Activities that many German people enjoy include; playing sports, board games, gardening, and beach trips. Germans also enjoy their personal hobbies and spend a lot of time indoors online and offline practicing their side-projects or hobbies.
Meeting German people
Whether it’s your holiday or back home, there’s plenty of opportunities to bump into some German people wherever you are.
On holiday – head to your favorite spots like normal. Stop by cafes and restaurants with your friends, there will be groups of people who will be doing a similar thing, sparking a few chances for you to speak with some German people. Other occasions like clubs and dance clubs will give you the opportunity to get closer and start flirting, even if you are shouting.
Back home – Sites like Meetup have been a great way to meet new people. On most Facebook profiles, people do add what language they speak and where they are originally from, allowing you a broad range of people you can connect with.
Remember if you secure a date, don’t forget to read the tips at the top of the page for a refresh before you get started.
Have you ever dated anyone from Germany? Or even a non-native person as a native German? Let us know in the comments, what cultural differences did you see and did you enjoy flirting with them? Spill everything!
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